Its Mother’s Day in many countries this coming Sunday . I have enjoyed being a mother and was excitedly saying to my husband this morning I am so looking forward to being a grandmother hopefully in the next ten years. Just read a wonderful post on the beatitudes of a good mother and thought to adapt and share my thoughts and experiences .
Being a parent is a holy calling from God, and God never calls us to do a job without providing the power and the plan to do that job successfully. Here are some beatitudes of a great mom.
Be a mom who loves God.
We love, because God first loved us (1 John 4:19, NCV).
The truth is that we are incapable of loving our children until we first love God. Motherhood at its best demands a thriving partnership with God. We cannot give unconditional love until we have experienced the unconditional love of God. We can do everything else right as a parent, but if we don’t begin with loving God – we will fail.
Be a mom who prays continually.
Never stop praying (I Thessalonians 5:17, ICB).
It is never too late to start praying, and it is always too early to stop.
Pray for God’s plan – not yours – when praying for your children.
Pray that you will see your child like God sees your child.
Pray specifically for your child:
Proverbs 3:5 “Lord, I pray that Tanaka would trust in You with all his heart and will lean not unto his own understanding.”
1 Peter 5:7 “Lord, I pray that Tasha would cast all her care upon You, because You care for her.”
Prayer is an eternal gift we can give to our children, teaching them the importance of prayer and teaching them how to pray.
I have and always continue to pray for the children. We prayed for them whilst they were in the womb. We spoke into their future and into their families. We continue to pray for our children all the time. I remember once having a problem with Tino my eldest in terms of his education . He was not willing to study and it looked like he was not going to get past his GSCE’s . We prayed for him, with members of our home cell group . We prayed with him and talked to him guiding him through choices and priorities . We had to make some changes one of which was changing his school and his friendship circle. Through those changes coupled with prayer we saw a huge transformation in his outlook to life , his ambitions and his academic ability. One of his teachers wrote on his reference form for University that he reminded her of the reason why she went into teaching in the first place.
Our two younger children have both had illness which involved having surgery . We have all gotten through that difficult time through prayer. God calmed their fears and ours .
Be a mom who gives time.
Train children how to live right, and when they are old, they will not change (Proverbs 22:6, NCV).
It takes time to know and train your children. Every child comes with a set of characteristics already established by God. Our job is to identify those characteristics and then steer the child toward them. The original root word for “train” is the term for “the palate, the roof of the mouth, the gums.” In the days of Solomon, a midwife would deliver the baby, dip her finger into the juice of crushed dates, reach into the mouth of the baby, and massage the gums and palate to create a sense of taste and thirst. She would then give the child to the mother so the baby could nurse. Our job as mothers is to develop a thirst in our children for the things of God. And that takes time.
There are seasons of life to which we must yield in order to be the mother God wants us to be, but time spent with children is never wasted. Every minute invested in your child is an eternal investment. Give your children the best of your time – not the leftovers of your time.
Being a mom is the hardest job on earth. It brings out the best and the worst in us.
I have some regrets about the early years of my children’s life’s . I could have taken time out just to be a mum but I had to juggle setting up a practice and working full time with being a mother. I did give my children the leftovers of my time BUT its never too late and I have certainly made up for it after realising that they needed my time and my attention. They needed me to listen to them and not pretend to listen whilst I am multi tasking. I have learnt now to stop and listen. I have learnt to spend time with each one of them as individuals. It is important to be intentional about time spent with family and loved ones. My mentor always reminds me of the importance of spending time with my husband and children.
Happy Mother’s Day to all Mothers out there and enjoy your time as a mum . Cherish every moment and give your very best to your children.